Roadblocks to Good Listening

Sometimes when we’re listening, we become focused on helping the other person to feel better or we try to solve their problems. Although we think we are helping, we actually aren’t. Below are some responses that all of us make from time to time that can become roadblocks to good listening.

Ordering

“Next time you get a homework assignment, do it right away.”

Preaching

“You should take more responsibility for your own behavior.”

Giving Advice

“Why don’t you just talk to the teacher next time?”

Blaming

“You’re being irrational.”

Agreeing

“You’re doing the best that you can.”

Ridiculing

“You’re such a baby.”

Interpreting

“You’re upset because you feel like you don’t live up to your father’s expectations.”

Consoling

“Don’t worry, everything will be okay.”

Interrogating

“How long have you been having problems with your teacher?”

Distracting

“Why don’t we watch a show together?”

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