When your spouse talks, listen so that you understand what they are saying and feeling.
- Give verbal and nonverbal feedback so your partner will know what you have understood.
- Be aware of the nonverbal message that you send, such as facial expressions or body language.
- Try not to be judgmental or jump to conclusions before your partner finishes speaking.
- Show respect for your partner’s perspective, even if you don’t agree.
- Get rid of distractions when you need to talk seriously (such as TV, telephone.)
- Communicate clearly and directly
- Focus on expressing your own feelings when you speak and don’t try to guess what your partner is thinking.
Remember: Showing genuine interest in someone and trying not to give advice unless it is asked for helps build an atmosphere for positive communication.