The keyword is ROUTINE.
On a weekly basis, set up a time and place when you and your partner will have time to focus on each other’s experiences. If intimate communication in the relationship has been neglected for a long time, set up 2 periods of 1 hour for a total of 2 hours each week. Make sure that children are not around since you are less likely to attend to one another if your children are around.
Setting up a routine makes it more likely that you will do it.
Try planning to talk outside of the home as there are generally fewer distractions. Make a date! Write the date, time, and place in your planner or on your calendar. Making a commitment to spend time together shows the priority that you put on your relationship.