To overcome obstacles, you must first have clear goals and an understanding of the challenges you face. If you haven’t yet done so, this would be a good time to check out the Chart Your Course Action Planner.
Tips for creating solutions:
Solve the Problem in Parts Break your problem into pieces, and work on the easiest part first. For each “bite,” use the ABCDE steps of problem solving up with a one-sentence solution. From here you can develop the solution further, going from the simple to the complex.
Get Multiple Suggestions Brainstorm with other parents who may have faced similar challenges to get their ideas about possible solutions to your obstacle. Sometimes a fresh perspective can lead to creative solutions.
No Idea Is Too Wild Be creative, expansive, and open to different ideas, and generate as many solutions as possible. It’s important to avoid judgment at this stage.
Remember Past Successes Have there been times in the past when you have solved a problem like this? Sometimes it can be helpful to take a step back and reflect on how you have been successful in overcoming obstacles while getting what your child needs.
Suggesting a way to solve a problem is the beginning of working toward an agreement.
For the best results:
Suggest. Don’t demand. It makes it easier to find common ground.
Address the school’s limitations when you offer solutions.
Prepare more than one option. You may find that school professionals are limited in their ability to carry out some solutions, so have a Plan B.
Remember you’re on the same team. Make sure to acknowledge the other person’s concerns.
Be open to a solution that meets the end goal, even if it’s not ideal. If the solution you reach will help your child, then it’s worth a try.
Be brief. State your points with just a few sentences. This is where the notes you made while preparing for the meeting will come in handy.
Remain positive, even if what you’re hearing makes you feel anything but positive. This will let the professional know that you’re willing to work on it, as a team.
